Save the middle name, for later

So, I have been hearing from my kids in more recent past that they would have liked to name themselves this name or that name.

I understand kids engage in some mind exploration exercises and this may be just one of those but I have also met a number of people who don’t really change their names.

In fact, I think I only know 1 person who might have actually changed her name from her given name and even that was just to move away from “Mona” to “Monika”. Not groundbreaking, I would say, yes?

So, why don’t people change their names?

I think a lot of this has to do with the hassle of changing all the paperwork that was set in motion since the day you were born. There is literally too many things to change.


So, here’s an idea. If you think you would like to give your child an opportunity to name themselves something other than their given first name, maybe save on the middle name.


Don’t give them a middle name and if they bring up the fact that would have like to name themselves something different, tell them that you left them the opportunity to give themselves any name they want as the middle name.

You left it blank so they can decide it when they grow up.

And, this may not even have many repercussions since most identity matching is using the first and the last name anyway.


And, even if your kids don’t end up changing their middle name, they will appreciate that you left them a possibility.

Just a thought. I know we didn’t quite do this with our kids but quite frankly, I never gave it much of a thought. I loved my name growing up and so did my wife.


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Lovekesh Babbar

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